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Tag Archives: good intentions
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How do we autistics describe to neurotypicals the physically painful responses we have to certain stimuli? How do we effectively convey how we shut down when depleted? How do we talk about how painful it is to feel like aliens in our own cultures, unable to engage with our fellow beings the way they engage with each other? Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 3
Tagged actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, good intentions, masking, neurotypical, sensory
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plant your flag elsewhere
Recently, a friend tried to convince me of the validity of a new treatment for autism that, as many of these purported treatments do, lacks a plausible explanation for how it works. Nonetheless, I respect the friend and thus did … Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 3
Tagged actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, different, disability, good intentions
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closed
Filip Kominik Don’t expect people to remember you have autism or realize what it entails. Most people, even those you might consider colleagues or professionals who received an advanced education in an area like psychology or social work, will have … Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 2
Tagged actuallyautistic, anger, ASD, Aspergers, autism, effort, good intentions
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effortless
“Do you think maybe the reason people don’t respond to you is how you talk to them?” I’m doing a really good job of controlling myself right now. I’m sitting with one of my supervisors (my department has two of … Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 1
Tagged actuallyautistic, autism, doubt, good intentions
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not my fault
As I read more and more about my autism (for new folks, I was recently diagnosed with Asperger’s, an Autism Spectrum Disorder or ASD), I am, for the first time in my life, seeing my life experiences clearly. All of … Continue reading
Posted in Aspect I
Tagged anger, ASD, depression, doubt, effort, emotional reaction, good intentions
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assumptions
assumption |əˈsəm(p)SHən| noun 1. a thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen, without proof: they made certain assumptions about the market | [ with clause ] : we’re working on the assumption that the time of death … Continue reading
fine
“Have you tried hypnosis?” I’m so used to the way I am now, wearing the brace, walking slowly to maintain my posture, using a special cushion to support my back, that I had forgotten that most people only see the … Continue reading
Posted in Aspect II
Tagged anger, chronic pain, disability, friend, good intentions, misinformation
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questions
Miss EmilyAnnaB, one of my favorite bloggers, recently sent me a parcel of nice questions to answer, about things that have nothing to do with my shoulder. Those answers will be forthcoming later this week. I like being given questions I can … Continue reading
Posted in Aspect I
Tagged anger, chronic pain, good intentions, humor, orthopedist, physical therapy
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planted and stunted
Why are so many of the other chronic pain/health challenges blogs I read so happy and positive all the time? It’s highly suspect. I cannot believe those people wake up every morning full of gratitude and spiritual peace. Those things are … Continue reading
off-putting and putting off
Don’t ask me how I’m doing. I don’t want to talk about how I’m doing. How I’m doing is too complicated to lend itself to brief, polite conversation. It’s been my experience that an acquaintance (oh look, “quaint” is in … Continue reading