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Tag Archives: Aspergers
done-ing
*this post contains profanity I’m doing trauma work with my therapist, starting with an event in my childhood that I’d only recently started calling a trauma, even though I remember it clear as day despite it having occurred when I … Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 4
Tagged anger, Aspergers, autism, chronic pain, doubt
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the real thing
“It doesn’t matter that they aren’t real; I don’t have a built-in remove that kicks in automatically in non-literal situations. It’s all real. All of it.” Continue reading
Posted in Aspect IV
Tagged actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, communicate, compensate, masking, social
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Crash the lab
Three semesters of grad school via Zoom have wrecked me. Class discussions and impromptu tangents are the fun part of grad school. They balance out the herculean and thankless labor one must otherwise expend reading gross amounts of peer-reviewed literature and pulling together a research project that will culminate in a thesis or dissertation, otherwise known as the longest and most harrowing paper you will ever write in your entire life. Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 4
Tagged actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, autistic woman, burnout, disability, doubt
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the real reason
So after reading yet another article about how the “wellness” (cough, puke) industry uses unregulated and non-factual claims to sell products to unsuspecting women while managing to completely ignore the reason women are searching for such things, followed by me writing fuming paragraphs in my head despite watching kittens play quasi-football, I figured perhaps I should write a blog post. Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 4
Tagged ableism, actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, autistic, autistic woman
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choices
Autism consigns one to a life defined by a lack of choices in some of the most essential elements of modern existence, like employment, social group, living arrangement, and even who we want to be. We struggle to navigate the boundaries imposed by a non-autistic society, either not seeing them, or, if we see them, not understanding them. Continue reading
Posted in Setting 4
Tagged ableism, actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, autistic woman, choices, neurodivergent, neurotypical
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The Glass Room
My latest blog post appears on the Neuroclastic online magazine! Click here (or below) to read it.
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 3
Tagged actuallyautistic, ASD, Aspergers, autism, autistic woman, neurodivergent, neurotypical, personal story
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The Last 5 Days, or How Not Treat an Autistic
For the last two months, my search for a pain professional who accepted Medicaid and was willing to work with my autism medication regimen had resulted in my being disbelieved, belittled, insulted, and dismissed by uncaring and uninterested neurotypicals at every turn. Continue reading
Posted in Aspect IV
Tagged actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, autistic woman, being autistic, chronic pain, health care, masking, neurotypical, surgery
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what happened
I swear I used to have more energy. I know I did. I never had as much as other people, but I definitely had more than I have had over the last decade or so (I’m in my late forties). … Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 3
Tagged actuallyautistic, Aspergers, autism, masking, normal, spoon, work
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melted
When I was planning this trip, I thought I was psychologically prepared for the higher-than-usual amount of change and uncertainty that accompanies a vacation to a new locale and involves a group of family members, two of which are capable … Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 3
Tagged actuallyautistic, ASD, Aspergers, autism, meltdown, self care
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normal
Photo by Austin Chan Yes, I am usually unqualified to write a post entitled “normal.” But occasionally, my inability to assimilate emotion and information, something that has been ascribed to my autism, is useful, maybe even necessary. This is one … Continue reading
Posted in Book Two - Mind, Setting 3
Tagged actuallyautistic, ASD, Aspergers, autism, coping, self love
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